I know what you’re thinking “but, but, being selfish, that’s BAD!” Bad how exactly? Why did putting yourself first become a bad thing? Besides, you’re either honest with yourself or you’re a fucking liar to the most important person in your world: You. Everyone is selfish. Especially the ones that say that aren’t. Why? Oh, they may do nice things and help people out, but it’s usually based on some spoken or unspoken transactional relationship that ensures no one gets what they want.
Start putting yourself first, and be honest with yourself about it. You’ll be much better off, less stressed, and happier. Ok, Mr Zero Fucks, you’re saying I shouldn’t put my children or my spouse first?!?! What kind of monster are you? Don’t you know that’s wrong?? Yes! That’s exactly what I’m saying! So glad I’m getting my point across. No, it’s not wrong to put yourself first. That doesn’t mean that you are less kind to your spouse and kids. In fact, if you take my advice you’ll be a much more pleasant person to be around, and people will want you around more. Everyone needs their space and if you DON’T like space, you’ve got an even bigger problem because if you don’t like spending time with yourself, you will never be happy with other people. If you smother or cling to others to fill some void you have in yourself, then I hope you find a fellow co-dependent nut job to live your life with, because most will be driven away in record time. I know this from experience.
So that brings me to Zero Fucks rule No. 1:
You are the most important person in your life